Because of the work I used to do a person would occasionally mistake me for a counselor or psychologist. I could never be either one. If I was, the first thing I would say when a patient walked in would be "Do you want to get well?" If there was much hemming. hawing or whining or other negative response I'd just say, "I can't help you. Have a nice day."
A person I know pretty well said this frequently to people who wanted his help and he had a good run as a healer.
Still has.