The technology section of last September's issue of Vanity Fair was all about these apps. A popular scenario looks like this: Visualize an upscale bar where young professionals are gathered. But they're not talking to each other. "Everyone is drinking, peering into their screens and swiping on the faces of strangers they may have sex with later that evening." One guy explains it like this: "It's setting up two or three Tinder dates a week and, chances are, sleeping with all of them, so you could rack up 100 girls you've slept with in a year" "He, himself, has slept with five different women...in the last eight days."
They're not looking for relationships on Tinder and the other apps. They're just looking for "Hit it and Quit it." There is no dating. There is no relationship.
So how is this affecting women?
The following woman's comment seems to be the prevailing view: "It seems like the girls don't have any control over the situation, and it should not be like that...Sex should stem from emotional intimacy, and it's the opposite with us right now, and I think it really is kind of destroying female's self-images."
"The double standard is real."
I found this entire seven page article to be depressing. What's with these young women and their willingness to put up with these shenanigans? And are men really this shallow?
I'll leave you with this final quote from Justin Garcia, scientist at Indiana University's Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction. (As you know, this is the gold standard for sex research.)
There have been two major transitions in heterosexual mating in the last four million years...The first was around 10,000 to 15,000 years ago, in the agricultural revolution, when we became less migratory and more settled...leading to the establishment of marriage as a cultural contract.
The second major transition is with the rise of the Internet.
What a scary time in history for young adults to establish new, long lasting relationships.
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