If You Know Who You Are You'll Know What to Do

I've written about the book with the above title before. Now today's legal section of the paper has a pretty good example of how that works out in real life.

In an advice column a woman writes that her husband died and she's the executor of his will. During a bad time in their marriage he had an affair and fathered a child. She's wondering if she has to tell the attorney. In other words "Will my children and I be penalized for their dad's mistake?"

HELLO!!

Your husband's "mistake" is called a human being. I have a really hard time with people who are only interested in the conception part of parenthood.

Of course, this woman didn't make the "mistake." So, for her to make the right decision she'll have to dig down deep and figure out who she is and who she wants to be.

By the way, the columnists, Jan Blackstone-Ford and Sharyl Jupe, had an excellent, tough, kind and loving response to this woman's question.

***