I'm reading the best selling book "Eat, Love, Pray" by Elizabeth Gilbert. Just finishing the first 3rd of the book and so far I'm not crazy about it. But I suspect that it will get much better. She's being very open about who she is and how she operates.
Sometimes when people are real they scare us.
She writes a funny description about her dysfunctional relationships. It looks familair to me. I know people who function this way.
While this does NOT describe my close friends I do know women who, even at my age, are still doing this:
...I disappear into the person I love. I am the permeable membrane. If I love you, you can have everything. You can have my time, my devotion, my (body,) my money, my family, my dog, my dog's money, my dog's time - everything. If I love you, I will carry for you all your pain, I will assume for you all of your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will project upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy Christmas presents for your entire family. I will give you the sun and the rain, and if they are not available, I will give you a sun check and and rain check. I will give you all of this and more, until I get so exhausted and depleted that the only way I can recover my energy is by becoming infatuated with someone else.
What Elizabeth Gilbert describes is certainly not what a Woo Woo woman is all about.
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Sometimes when people are real they scare us.
She writes a funny description about her dysfunctional relationships. It looks familair to me. I know people who function this way.
While this does NOT describe my close friends I do know women who, even at my age, are still doing this:
...I disappear into the person I love. I am the permeable membrane. If I love you, you can have everything. You can have my time, my devotion, my (body,) my money, my family, my dog, my dog's money, my dog's time - everything. If I love you, I will carry for you all your pain, I will assume for you all of your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will project upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy Christmas presents for your entire family. I will give you the sun and the rain, and if they are not available, I will give you a sun check and and rain check. I will give you all of this and more, until I get so exhausted and depleted that the only way I can recover my energy is by becoming infatuated with someone else.
What Elizabeth Gilbert describes is certainly not what a Woo Woo woman is all about.
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